How Do I Get Her Back?

Guys find themselves thinking "What can I do to get her back" after a breakup. Then they begin philosophizing about things that should have been done different, even making plans to write apology letters, anything to help them score the relationship back in-tact.

This is a dead end for one reason above all: You can never tell what the real issues were behind a breakup. Women much of the time become emotional and often do not even know what led up to the break up and they may not realize what is causing them to feel the way they are. It is harmful in many situations to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The primary strategy to answering the question of "what can I do to get back my ex girlfriend" is to let things cool off for a while, do some other things. Go out, meet people, make friends, have fun, forget about women for a while. Set some realistic goals to expand your repertoire when it comes to relating to women.

Take a couple months, make some changes in your life, spend time away from the ex and it will work wonders. However much time you need in order to get your emotions and your head clear.

Once you have your head on straight its time to strategically work on getting your ex-girlfriend back. You don't want to be wussy and beg though. Women don't respect that.

Play it cool. If you have given everything enough time, she is probably missing you as much as you miss her. Let her know you are doing well (playing hard to get), but don't over do it. This will get her really re-thinking things.

If getting back with your ex is meant to be, this is when it will be apparent. Remember to analyze is to paralyze, over analyzing could prevent you from acting correctly when trying to figure out what to do to get your ex girlfriend back.

Trying to get back at her or trying to make her feel jealous is not a good way to do things. This in fact can be some of the worst things you can possibly do, since it will show your ex that she should simply move on because you already have. You want her to see that you are doing OK, but you don't want to inspire her to move on if you ideally want to get back together. Let her see how strong and confident your are, and she will want to get back with you.